For many, divorce is a fact of life. My parents got divorced when I was only 12 years old which is a time of important development for a kid of that age. It was hard for all of us but I will honestly say that I believe it was most difficult on me. Even if my parents went to a family law practice in order to make things easier for everyone it still had a hugely negative impact on my life. Once they were separated they were unable to work together in helping raise me and fought often over where I would live during the summers.
Now as a 30 year old, I look at many of my friends who have found love and gone the distance to get married. I’m glad to see that my generation is waiting longer to get married. When my parents got hitched they were both pretty young and it showed later in their relationship that they didn’t possess what was necessary to make a relationship work. My parents didn’t have any real relationship experience to draw from. Whenever they had a problem in their relationship, there was no healthy way of coping with it. In time, the problems grew on each other.
For my part I have decided that I want to stay single. I’m definitely inspired by what I went through as a kid but I realize that I don’t trust myself to help hold together a relationship. It takes a great deal of energy, trust and emotional investment to make a relationship on that level to work at all. I don’t have it in me to do it. I fear having to go through the process of another divorce where two people are left to pick up the emotional pieces of a broken marriage.